Your Team's Dysfunction Is a Mirror. What Is It Showing You?

The debrief lasted forty-five minutes. The team had missed the deadline. The analysis was sharp: poor communication between functions, unclear ownership of the deliverable, and too many decision points without accountability. Every observation was accurate. The leader presented it well. 

Leadership self-awareness, the kind that actually changes team outcomes, begins not with diagnosing the team but with examining the leader who sets the conditions.

The team left knowing what went wrong. Three months later, the same pattern repeated.

Here is the question nobody asked in that debrief: who set the conditions that led to unclear ownership? Who had modelled, over the preceding quarter, what accountability looked like at the top? Who had consistently resolved ambiguous decision points themselves rather than holding the team to a standard of resolving them?

It is easier to diagnose a team than to examine yourself. Which is precisely why so many leaders do the first one first, and sometimes only ever do it.

The most difficult question a leader can ask when a team is underperforming is not what is wrong with the team? What in my own behaviour, expectations, or defaults might be creating or sustaining this pattern? 

The Systemic Mirror of Executive Defaults

The team that avoids conflict often has a leader who models avoidance under pressure. The team that waits for direction often learns, through repeated experience, that initiative carries risk.

Tasha Eurich's research found that although 95 per cent of people believe they are self-aware, only 10 to 15 per cent actually are. In leadership, that gap is structural: leaders receive less honest feedback the more senior they become, operate in environments that reward decisiveness over reflection, and are surrounded by people who have learned that candid observation carries personal risk.

Before you present the diagnosis, try one question. Not in the meeting. In the hour before. What did I do in the last quarter that made this outcome more likely? Not what the team did. What did I do?

That question, answered honestly, does not replace the debrief. It completes it. 

Three months after the original debrief, the leader who asked it found something the analysis had missed: the team had learned to wait because every ambiguous decision in the previous quarter had been resolved from the top before anyone else could attempt it. The pattern was not the team's. It was the system the leader had built without intending to.

That is where the real examination begins. And it is the beginning of the kind of self-awareness that changes the pattern rather than restating it.

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• Eurich, T. (2018). What Self-Awareness Really Is (and How to Cultivate It). Harvard Business Review. https://hbr.org/2018/01/what-self-awareness-really-is-and-how-to-cultivate-it
• Uhl-Bien, M., & Ospina, S. (2012). Advancing Relational Leadership Research. Information Age Publishing.
• Taylor & Francis. Leaders, Conflict, and Team Coordination. https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/09537287.2024.2313518